Patience & waiting

Taking turns, delayed gratification

"Is it time yet?" "How much longer?" "I can't wait!" Patience is genuinely hard for kids because their sense of time is different from ours. Five minutes can feel like an hour when you're four.

What to Know

Patience is genuinely hard for kids because their sense of time is different from ours. Five minutes can feel like an hour when you're four. This isn't a character flaw — it's developmental reality. The ability to delay gratification grows slowly over childhood and isn't fully developed until much later.

When kids struggle to wait, they're not being difficult on purpose. They're dealing with a feeling of urgency that's hard to override. Their brain wants the thing now, and waiting creates genuine discomfort. The ability to tolerate that discomfort and trust that the thing will come is a skill that takes years to build.

Practice helps, but so does scaffolding. Visual timers, countdown warnings, distraction strategies, and keeping waits short and predictable all help kids succeed while their patience muscle develops.

Signs to Watch

•Asks "how much longer?" repeatedly
•Has meltdowns when asked to wait
•Struggles with turn-taking games or activities
•Wants everything immediately
•Has difficulty with delayed rewards or long-term goals
•Gets more impatient when tired or hungry

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Saving for Something Special

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The Words That Wouldn't Wait

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But I Have Something Important to Say!

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When Will Mommy Be Back?

Mom said she'd be back soon. But 'soon' felt like forever. Josie watched the door, counted the minutes, worried and waited. When the door finally opened—there she was.

Why Do We Have to Take the Bus?

CJ wanted a car like everyone else. The bus was embarrassing. But Grandma showed him what he was missing: the guitar player, the kind driver, the city out the window.

The Perfect Slow Day

Nothing special happened. No plans, no places to go. Just a slow day with puddles to splash, snacks to eat, and nowhere to be. Sometimes nothing is everything.

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Leo hates the grocery store. Too slow, too boring, too many no's. But when Dad makes it a secret mission, suddenly the trip feels different.

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