7 Things to Say to Get Out the Door on Time

It's 7:45. You need to leave in five minutes. One child has no shoes. The other hasn't touched breakfast. You're about to lose your mind. Here are phrases that help.

1. "First shoes, then we can go."

This simple "first-then" structure tells them exactly what needs to happen and what comes next. No nagging, no explaining why—just clear sequence.

Works for anything: "First teeth, then books." "First backpack, then car."

2. "We're leaving in five minutes. What do you still need to do?"

This gives them information and puts ownership on them. Instead of directing every move, you're prompting them to think through what's left.

For younger kids who can't track this, try: "Two things left: shoes and coat. Can you do them?"

3. "I'm getting in the car in two minutes. I hope you'll be ready to come with me."

This is moving without them—calmly. You're not threatening; you're stating your plan. The natural consequence of not being ready is being left behind (or being carried to the car in pajamas).

Follow through matters. If you say two minutes, mean two minutes.

4. "Your body is telling me you're not ready. Let me help you."

For the child who's clearly stuck—overwhelmed, distracted, or just unable to get moving—this acknowledges the struggle without blame. Then you help: hand them the shoes, guide them to the door.

Sometimes they need a jumpstart, not more instructions.

5. "We can talk about that in the car."

When they suddenly NEED to tell you something, show you something, or ask you something—right when you need to leave—this validates their interest while moving forward.

"That sounds interesting! Tell me in the car."

6. "What can we do tonight to make tomorrow easier?"

This is for after the chaos, not during. Problem-solve together: laying out clothes, packing backpacks the night before, setting alarms, having grab-and-go breakfast options.

Morning success is built the night before.

7. "I can see you're having a hard morning. We still need to go."

Some mornings are hard. Acknowledging that doesn't mean giving in. You're validating while holding the boundary.

"I know you're tired. It's still time to go."

What Doesn't Work

**Yelling.** It might get short-term compliance, but it starts everyone's day badly and doesn't build lasting habits.

**Repeating yourself endlessly.** If you ask five times, you've taught them to wait until ask five.

**Vague instructions.** "Get ready!" doesn't tell them what to do.

**Threats you won't follow through on.** "If you're not ready, we're not going!" (when you actually have to go) teaches them your words don't mean much.

**Doing everything for them.** Efficiency today, learned helplessness tomorrow.

The Bigger Picture

Morning chaos is usually a symptom of: - Not enough time built in - Lack of routine - Too many decisions in the morning - Not enough preparation the night before - Tired, overwhelmed kids (or parents)

Address the system, not just the symptoms.